Maybe you have or maybe you haven’t heard people say, “Don’t read the comments!” when it comes to online articles, forums, etc. But like most “bad” things, even though you know you shouldn’t, you almost always do.
The comments section online can sometimes make me giggle, make me think about whatever opinion I first thought on the topic, or make me angry. Unfortunately, it’s mostly always the latter.
Last week, Arizona was put on the national spotlight again for not a very good reason (again). Six high school students decided it would be funny to position themselves forming a pejorative word that should never be thought of as funny. Their letters were from a larger phrase (with more students) used for their senior yearbook picture.
When I first read about this, I thought to myself, How in the brains of these six girls, did they think it was okay–funny–to do this? (In a picture where the girls’ faces are not blurred, they can all be seen laughing.)
Then I went to the comments.
I expected the girls to get lashed at. In many ways, I felt they deserved it. But what I read was quite horrifying. Most of the comments were targeted at the punishment the girls received, a 5 day suspension, that most felt wasn’t “hard” enough but there were quite a few people who didn’t think it was a big deal.
The story went viral and wherever I turned, I was reading about this story. And I couldn’t help but read the comments. I was disturbed by those excusing the girls, but I was also disturbed at the threats the girls were receiving–It was as if I felt the girls should be punished, but I wanted to step in when people began posting their home addresses.
Similarly, I read/saw Cassey Ho’s (YouTube fitness Guru) vlog on her personal struggle with anorexia. She posted a picture on her Instagram and Facebook of a time in her life when she participated in a bikini/figure competition. She shared how despite how she may have looked on the outside, she was incredibly unhappy (and unhealthy) in the inside.
Sometimes I look back at this photo and think, wow, why couldn't I have held on to this low fat bikini body? It's such…
Posted by Blogilates on Monday, January 25, 2016
You know, I don’t spend a lot of time reading/watching the news. A lot of people may want to call me ignorant or that I’ve got my head in the clouds, but that’s okay because I know I’m not and I know I don’t. We have so much reality going on in our own tight circle of family and friends that I feel like I need to pour my emotional energy into us rather than people in our community, city, Province, country, world. I’m an Empath, and if I watched or read up on the news, my emotional energy would be drained by strangers and I’d have nothing left to give my own family and friends. Maybe I’m just at that stage of my life where it feels like we’re going through trauma after trauma and that one day when it settles down I will be able to plug in more to the news, community, etc.
I def don’t think it’s ignorant and it a lot of ways it’s smart to avoid the news. In some ways, it’s unavoidable but you can definitely lessen exposure. Especially so like you said, you can devote energy to people who are present in your life.
Your comment also made me think of a parent last semester who e-mailed me asking why I was teaching Edgar Allan Poe (Dark Romantic American author) in my class (American Literature) when there was already so much horror in the world. She said I should only be teaching/sharing happy literature.
Well, I don’t agree with that parent, because literature is different than current events. You’re teaching the kids about language and art, not about the horror in the world.
My favorite comment section to check out is always the Humans of New York photos on FB. The comments get SO RIDICULOUS! It’s really eye opening to be exposed to EVERYONE’s opinions, and also that their opinions are not held back at all because of the “anonymity” they feel from being behind a computer screen.
Oh totally!! People become emblazoned behind the screen and I often hope it’s because of that, and that they’re not like that in real life (even though online it’s still awful).
I hardly ever watch the news at all – I’m terrible! I like to read the comments and laugh. It usually upsets me when the article is about something I can relate to – like when there is stuff in the news about teachers, but the public attacks the teachers. I’m not saying that we don’t ask for it sometimes, but people love to make nasty comments about things they know nothing about.
I usually laugh at the comments on ESPN–those sometimes have good ones (and not mean mean, if that makes sense). But oh yeah, any about teachers makes me super sad and angry 😦
Whenever I read the comments section, I always regret it. It is usually full of ignorance. But yes, I do sometimes read the comments.
My mouth dropped open when I clicked on the link and saw what those girls spelled out. That is HORRIFYING! They need to be punished and they need therapy- they need to realize how wrong that is.
It’s really disturbing how okay a lot of teenagers are about racism. Many don’t think it’s a real thing or that it’s okay to do things (like they did). 😦
I once had an entire post about how the real post is in the comments, at least, it often is on these more personal blogs, or on blogs where the people are truly connecting to the person. I avoid comment sections for mainline article type posts.
I do love the comments on personal blogs (most of the time, lol!) and I’ve been lucky that on mine the majority have been positive. But yes, mainline articles, the reading the comments are risky.
You know, I do the same thing. If I see something nuts, I know I shouldn’t venture to the comments. But I just can’t help myself. And I am so appalled by what people have to say. It is just scary! I keep thinking of a Scary Mommy article I read about a dad who explained how he wants his kids to be open with their sexuality and how when they get older he will invite their dates to stay the night at their house and teach them to be comfortable in relationships. I thought people would lash out…..nope! Guess Mary won’t be dating his kids 😉
Yeah, no! Lol!
Interesting post. I was reading a post by one of the local news stations on Facebook and one of the commenters called out the station for the post. Instead of support, she was attacked by other commenters. And instead of taking the high road, she attacked back. It was ugly, and I clicked away from the post. The original message was lost. People really feel brave hiding behind their computer screens, and I see it starting to trickle over IRL. Just a couple of weeks ago, a disgruntled mother from my clinic posted negatively, naming me, on my employers FB page. While she was in the wrong and was upset because I wouldn’t do what she wanted, I had no recourse. I didn’t respond to the comment, because it would have given her validity and would have made me look unprofessional. All I could do was cry.
Oh man, that stinks! That was really big of you to not respond and in the end, you end up losing way more than her like you said. I wish people weren’t so mean 😦
I know better…but I read them anyway. My curiosity gets me every time. And as someone who reads a LOT of political news, it means I’m always aware of what the “other” side is saying, which I guess is good in a way. It keeps me honest and sometimes it makes me think. I know ignorance would be bliss, but I like to know what I’m up against, too.
I know better too and I still do it 😦
I admittedly avoid the news, and the comments associated with it all…it’s just too darn depressing, mean, and hateful these days. I stay tuned with the happenings of our military for obvious reasons, but the rest I can do without sadly. 😦
It’s very true that nowadays the news is verrrry depressing 😦
Sure is….:(